Make health my hobby? No thank you.

I used to read a lot of health and wellness books. These are books that tell you, in minute detail, what you need to do to live a long life with the maximum number of "quality" years.

These books spell out how you should eat, what exercise you need to do, how you should manage stress, what you need to do to keep your brain young, etc.

I once figured out (this is true) that if I were to implement everything these books told me to do in order to achieve optimal health, I would have to get up every morning at something like 3:00 a.m. to fit it all in. I'm not kidding.

Going under the assumption that my evenings are too packed and unpredictable to regularly schedule any sort of exercise or self-improvement activities, I need to relegate health and wellness solely to the morning hours. And if I were truly doing everything I'm supposed to do in order to be a robust, happy person, I would need like three or four hours every morning.

That list would include (but is certainly not limited to):

• Aerobic exercise
• Strength training
• Flexibility exercises
• Balance exercises
• Brain building (i.e., learn something new, like say a language you don't know)
• Bible reading
• Meditation/breathing exercises
• Breakfast (THE MOST IMPORTANT MEAL OF THE DAY...they think)
• Brushing and flossing
• Something else I'm sure I'm forgetting

I don't have the time to do all of those things, so I do some of them. And I'm fine with it.

I haven't always been fine with it, by the way. For several years, I agonized over not hitting 10,000 steps every day, not lifting weights, not learning Tai Chi, not stretching, not not not not not not. I was so about what I was "not" doing that I never recognized all the good things I WAS doing.

I once read a book in which a doctor suggested making your health your hobby. The implication was that your spare time should be spent learning and implementing all of the things that science and personal experience show to be good for your body, mind and general well-being.

Which is great, except that in spending so much time trying to build a better life, you leave yourself no time to actually live that life.

So I've finally (FINALLY) learned to do the best that my schedule and self-discipline will allow and to be happy with that. And I'm so relieved. All of the "nots" above were, ironically, killing me. Now I feel so much more content.

In case you're wondering, I do get out and run four days a week, and it's never for more than a half hour at a time. I don't lift weights, I don't stretch, I don't meditate. I DO read the Bible daily now and I DO eat breakfast, brush and floss without fail.

And I feel great. The burden of having to be perfect with my health was too much.

It only took me five years or so to get that through my thick head.

Worrying about my health is making me unhealthy

Had he not passed away suddenly in the fall of 1999, my father would have turned 84 years old today.

I'm only being honest when I say I would have been shocked had my dad made it to 84.

For one thing, he smoked for decades. I hated that. I've always hated smoking. I think it's filthy, disgusting and stupid. It's one of the relatively few things that I'm unequivocally against.

Smoking and Cleveland-born Steelers fans. They both rank low on my list.

There were a few years in the early 80s when my dad smoked only pipes, and I could live with that. It wasn't really any healthier than cigarettes, but it definitely smelled better. I loved to open his tobacco pouch and take a whiff.

But he went back to cigarettes sometime later, and I'm sure the little cancer sticks were instrumental in the heart attack that eventually killed him.

He also had a good-sized belly. As far back as I can remember, my dad had that belly. Which isn't a surprise when you consider what he regularly ate (fried meats, straight buttermilk, etc.)

Simply put, he was the product of a time and place where people didn't pay much attention to the dangers of such things, either because they didn't know or they didn't care.

None of this paints a very pretty picture of my dad, but he really was a great guy. And an excellent father. I wouldn't trade the 30 years I had with him for anything.

But there's a part of that is determined not to follow in my father's footsteps.

As I've mentioned here before, I worry quite a bit about my lifestyle. Am I eating right? Am I exercising enough? Is my weight acceptable? How about my cholesterol?

Actually, the fact that I "worry" so much about those things is a bit of a problem. Increasingly, it seems, medical researchers are finding a direct link between the way we manage stress and the length and quality of our existence.

I have quite a bit of stress in my life. Or at least I see it as stress, which is essentially the same thing. I've gotten better in recent years at dealing with it, but I still have a long way to go.

More than once, I've considered taking a tai chi class at our local community center. I could attend eight two-hour classes for just $39, which seems like a good deal. I hear great things about tai chi in terms of its physical, mental, spiritual, and stress-relieving benefits.

But I've never taken the class. Every time a new session starts, I come up with some excuse not to give it a try. "I don't have time," I'll say, or, "The morning runs I do are enough to keep me healthy."

Still, something tells me I'll be needing some outside help in the stress management department. No amount of planning or to-do lists is going to teach me how better to deal with the curveballs that life inevitably throws at each of us.

The thing is, I don't often ask for help in anything. Not for the typical male reasons of pride or anything. It's usually just because asking for help takes time, and I have this illusion that I have no extra time whatsoever.

And it really is just that - an illusion. When people say they don't have time to exercise, you'll often hear personal trainers and doctors reply, "Well, do you have time for clogged arteries and chronic disease? Because that's where you're headed if you don't make time to take care of yourself."

The same holds true for stress. I'm afraid that if I don't make time to learn how to deal with it, it will very quickly catch up with me. And I don't want to think of what that's going to mean.

Of course, this all raises the question of just how long you want to live. Some people justify their unhealthy habits by saying they don't want to get to 95 years old anyway if it means life in a nursing home where you're unable to take care of yourself.

Others will tell you it doesn't need to be that way. That eating well and taking care of yourself will make even the last years of your life happy and relatively healthy.

Whatever the answer, I don't really have a "goal age" in mind. I just want to be around long enough to raise my children, be active with my grandchildren, and maybe see a Cleveland sports team finally win a championship.

I know, I know. I'm getting greedy with that last one.